Some universal signs to interpret, from today, a day that has left me realizing I’m worn down and not doing myself any favours by living on the edge:
“Peace is in each of us” (Mennonite Church)
Even though I felt like I needed the Naturopath to be a sounding board, that I needed her to tell me I am drinking too much (either to cope or to fill up the calorie tank at that point in the day), that I am not respecting my hunger out of fear of getting fat (and the never-ending thoughts of belly fat, unknown as to its delusional or truthful nature), that I am not fueling my me-ness enough throughout the day with food and rest, thereby letting my blood sugar drop, my adrenal health plummet and my ability to fight off / ignore / not hear the blackness crater.
Even though I felt like I needed her to say it, I knew these things. I am scared of trusting myself, of trusting my opinion, even though time and time again, we draw the same conclusions: the only us experts, are us. Peace is in each of us, or at least, in my case, the ability to find that peace is in me. I trust my head to think, my heart to love, my soul to feel; now, I need to trust my body to heal.
“I value myself” (Naturopath)
I want to shift the way that I think from I find no value in myself compared to others, worthless in their shadows and that I accept myself as such. I want to shift it to that I find purpose in others, I find value in helping them (like the happiness I got from doing yard work at my mother-in-law’s house today, not thinking about the selfishness that spawned me doing it, but simply having my heart focus on the love and the IAN). However, finding purpose in others does not negate valuing myself, it does not have to. In fact, valuing myself means I can be selflessly selfish, by taking time to heal myself, heal myself so I can engage in that purpose of others; as opposed to being selfishly selfless, making it about ignoring my own needs and ultimately sacrificing my ability to live that purpose.
“Be patient” (Mennonite Church)
We will make mistakes, we will falter, we must before we fly. We will be patient, step by step on the path of recovery. We will keep putting one foot in front of the other to reclaim healthy, making mistakes along the way but still going, one day at a time, one breath at a time, breath by breath.