In preparation for these often-mentioned, aforementioned next phase/lines, it’s time for reflection.
Before that though, since this reflection might lead to thoughts of MISTAKES, let’s go back…
Tao of Pooh on the true nature of wisdom: “In the final section of the Tao Te Ching, Lao-tse wrote, ‘The wise are not learned; the learned are not wise.’ … From the Taoist point of view, while the scholarly intellect may be useful for analyzing certain things, deeper and broader matters are beyond its limited reach” (24). If we gain from our mistakes, in this way, they serve to make us wise.
Universal Post-It: “Remember, we all stumble; we have to fall before we fly.”
Keeping that in mind, it was not a mistake to try intuitive eating. What I gained and learned from the experience:
- I like drinking an enjoyable bottle of wine, even alone, but I’ve learned not to use it for nourishment and not to do it so often
- I can trust what others cook for me
- Soft counting isn’t bad and small differences don’t matter – my body takes care of it
- Sitting down and reading does not really change appetite dramatically – body self-regulates through healing faster or slower, and therefore, rest allows the body to heal faster and burn more calories in the next workout
- The fight the urge to eat systematically or by formula might be a created fight, but fighting the urge to “eat later” needs to happen (this is not a created fight, it is a necessary one)
- Self-consciousness comes from the perception of portion counting, not through the act of it – and it is only after trying intuition that I have learned this
- Suicidal and thoughts of self-harm increase when I’m stressed and hungry; portion counting becomes less of a source of fear and spinning and self-consciousness when I’m full and rested enough
- We were thinking that numbing my hunger was responsible for numbing my sex drive, but the latter has not increased since trying intuitive eating – it doesn’t appear that I’m numbing everything else, and perhaps the true culprit is overstress
Now it’s time to reflect on what we’ve learned, what I’ve gained, what will allow us to make the next steps in recovery, in reclaiming healthy.