I have had Workout Friend’s voice in head, especially after Wednesday’s post and particularly after the recent Don-ish musings. If I am not waiting, even if I am and it is temporary, as the new Don of Tz’u, it means being invincible. Scratch that…
The Don is not invincible. The Don is not Superman. These are illusions, but illusions that are part of the role. The Don appears stone-faced, steadfast, without doubt or vulnerability, because it is from this that others gain strength and trust and security.
Truth is, the Don just makes decisions, uses supports and blackness-weakening tools, chooses to live so that this perception is possible. For me, that means doing things and accessing supports that will allow me to be a better teacher, a better student, a better husband, a better son, a better employee, a better rock. Better able to deal with family drama, with my mother-in-law’s impending surgery, with my wife’s thoughts about changing jobs or at least changing the make-up of her current one, even through the job I will face come September, the Masters for which I have gone all in, the house to keep mortgaging along.
That means taking it slow for a few days, recovering. That means setting the stage so that physical rest can be restful, because physical rest is not restful if my mental health is unhealthy, is weak, is screaming the sirens’ song of the blackness. Perhaps that means shifting meal-conception to allow for more regularity, more regular blood sugar and blackness-weakening strength spread throughout the day. I tried varying the times and number of meals per day (trying to act on my natural hunger cues), but ended up eating certain amounts and not spreading it out.
Therefore, perhaps to be a more capable Don, I need to vary the amounts, but make the times more certain, more definite: eat too much at breakfast, eat a light lunch; not feeling hungry at dinner, eat something small. This will also ensure that I am not drinking to gather up much needed calories (and suffering the aforementioned consequences). Instead, allow my body to tell me the truth, provide the colour, but within the lines of breakfast-lunch-dinner regularity, and by doing so, finding vividness, strength against the demons inside, rest and peace, the appearance of being superhuman.