A week after the Fourth of July and a week and a half after Canada Day, I’m declaring my Independence…
Cue the dramatic, but this is a huge step. A step on the path of recovery.
And no, it won’t be perfect. The blackness will still scream in my head, telling me that I will get fat, telling me that I am not doing enough, telling me that I am wrong. The blackness will force me to use the tools I have at my disposal, to find new tools, to use my support system. However, consider that neither of these examples were perfect at the time either:
- Canadians still had Western Canada to bring into the fold after 1867’s Confederation. It took over a century, but they got there. Now, all the provinces and territories celebrate.
- In 1776, the Americans still had the ghost of the British looming over their shoulders and a Civil War that was a hundred years away. But there was progress.
Signing of Confederation, signing of the Declaration of Independence – these things, these showed progress, these were steps on their paths, these were hope.
And just like them, I can have progress, I can have hope.
And just like them, I deserve both – for me, for us, for all the people it will allow me to focus on in the future and for all the Intentional Acts of Niceness I will be able to do because I won’t be concerned about food or hunger or the things I’ve avoided as a result of the portion-system (because the food or activity or activity level couldn’t be measured or quantifiably compensated, because of the anxieties around not getting it all out of the blender, because of not being able to stop moving and doing extra). We all deserve for these things to be gone. Reclaiming healthy through recovery deserved.
The portion controlled system will always be there if needed, in times of stress or in times of relapse. But for right now, it has done its job. For right now, I have done my time, my 25 to life
Now, it’s my day. Not a day of endings, of forgetting the history leading up to this moment or of ignoring the continued progress that needs to come, that will come. But today, today is my Independence Day. And tomorrow, we wake up and take the next step.